The biggest change I’ve made this far in life was the decision to be unapologetically happy at all cost. Too often do we associate people’s choice to be unbothered with being emotionless. Over time, I’ve come to learn that life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you react. Of course, life has its fair share of ups and downs but, we always have a choice of which side we want to give the most of our energy to. I’m choosing to make everyday positive, even if that means I have to see the good in the bad.
Choosing happiness doesn’t happen over night. Just like most of our greatest accomplishments in life, it takes hard work and dedication. Being unapologetic is a trend in today’s society; if you’re just following the trend and not being genuine about it, you won’t make it. That was certainly my experience the first time around. I attempted to create a clean slate in my life but, the truth is, you have to work through your ugliest moments before you can achieve happiness in the most pure form.
I had to think about every traumatic experience that I’ve had and find the good that came out of those situations. Talk about an eye opening journey. I never thought I’d find the blessings in disguise from a sexual assault, a broken heart, and a miscarriage. They were there though; plain as day and from that moment on, I found myself becoming happier and more graceful than I’ve ever been. I guess it’s true what they say: we have to experience the darkness in order to truly appreciate the sunshine.
I think the hardest part of this process for me was being unapologetic about my happiness. Often times, we see happiness as being selfish; especially in times where it’s more socially acceptable to be sad/angry. I put in the most effort when it came to no longer allowing others to tell me how I should feel. Misery loves company and I refuse to live a life of misery with those who find solace in it. A bad moment doesn’t equate to a bad day or a bad life. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still human and I have emotions just like everyone else. I don’t allow myself to wallow in self pity though and that’s the difference. I have the right to smile through all situations, good and bad without feeling guilty about it. It’s not an act of being selfish and it’s not an act of boasting. Rather, it’s a desire to smile through the pain because pain is temporary but, happiness is everlasting. I deserve to be just as happy as the next person.
As I continue my journey through self discovery, I’m claiming my unapologetic happiness for the many years to come. This world will chew you up and spit you out, if you let it. The moment you make the decision to remain positive through all obstacles, is the moment that you gain control over how this world treats you.
Be happy at all costs with no regrets. Be unapologetically happy.