The older I get, the more I enjoy the presence of my own company. Being alone brings out a completely different side of me; a side that is peaceful, reasonable, and calm. As a college student, my life was so hectic to the point where I rarely ever had time for myself. Now that I’m settling into adulthood, I have more free time to just do me. As much as I love being around people, I have my moments where I just need to be alone and actually take in the realization that I’m a living, breathing person. It’s in these moments that I find solace:
Recently I’ve started studying my zodiac and being a Cancer explains why I’m so in tune with water. This past year I was fortunate enough to travel to Florida and it was the perfect opportunity to be alone with the ocean. Listening to the waves crash against the shore, smelling the freshness of the water, and feeling the smoothness of its texture brought me more comfort than I’ve ever felt before. So much so that I decided to make it a goal to vacation to Florida at least once a year; or at least somewhere with an easily accessible beach. There’s nothing like being surrounded by the ocean when I need some peace and quiet.
I’ve finally turned meditation into a lifestyle; at least two, thirty minute sessions a day. Not only is this one of my opportunities to be alone but, it’s a healing factor in all aspects of my life: mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. There’s nothing comparable to being in solitude with your body, mind, and soul. What I love the most about meditation is that there isn’t a specific way to do it. Not everyone who meditates sits with their legs crossed, eyes closed, humming some tune that no one else can catch on to. It’s all about becoming one within yourself and not letting any disruptions break your inner peace. I could be laying down in bed, taking a shower, or even listening to music; as long as I’m focusing on my breathing and blocking out all distractions, the effect is worthwhile.
This is by far my most favorite but, also most dangerous form of alone time. I used to be terrified of going shopping alone actually. I’ve always had a little bit of social anxiety but, over time, that’s been the least of my worries. The first time I went shopping alone was when I got my first car while in college. You learn that you aren’t going to have the same free time as your friends when you’re all taking different classes. Learning to be alone is a must. I got so bored that I started venturing out by myself one day and ended up at the mall. There’s no telling how long I was there but, I found myself falling in love with stores like Forever21, H&M, Nordstrom Rack, Charming Charlie’s, Charlotte Russe, just to name a few. Not to mention, the deals I find are amazing and I can’t resist picking up an item or two. Since then, retail therapy has been a big part of my life. There’s nothing like getting up early, grabbing a cup of coffee from Starbucks, and browsing my favorite stores. It’s more of a calming experience than one would think.
Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy being social just as much as the next person. However, there’s just something about being in my own space, doing my own thing that brings me to an unbelievable level of peace. I’m becoming more in tune with my energy and this is the best I’ve felt in forever. It’s the solace that I feel when there are no distractions around that makes me crave solitude.